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What is it that hurts the most when you hurt someones feelings and is it why we normally choose to do good things for others? I feel like I myself am a pretty likeable person, I'm not rude, I follow rules and I'm open to others ideas and opinions. However, I learned to be the way that I am, my parents always taught me to treat others the way that I wanted to be treated and to be polite and respectable. When I was younger I'll be open to you guys and I'll tell you that I was bullied, probably all the way up to middle school. Kids would tease me because I was shy and they would never let me do anything with them, it's almost like I was that nerdy kid in those shows we all used to watch, the one who always gets chosen last for everything. After I was bullied and I got a little older, probably around grade 6 I started to wonder how bullies felt after they did something so harsh to somebody else, I wondered, did they feel guilty, was their conscience telling them that they did something wrong, did they ever feel like they wanted to apologize but couldn't for fear of their reputations? Are these feelings that I'm wondering about linked to why we do good things for others?
Once I got to high school I found that a number of students who used to be "mean" in my eyes stopped the bullying nonsense, they began to focus on their learning, homework, etc. and became decent people. I believe that maybe they felt certain emotions when they bullied others, one of the main feelings being guilt. I know I have felt guilt before, probably after eating one too many cookies... Guilt is probably the worst feeling that you can have, it eats you up, always feeling like you did something wrong. When you do something hurtful to another person you will feel guilt, you'll constantly be reminded that you did that wrong and normally you'll end up wanting to fix the problem you started because you can't stand the emotion. I'm going to say that certain emotions felt when you hurt somebody's feelings are one of the things that hurt the most about it.
When a person does a wrong, when they hurt another person do they want to apologize? Do they want it to go away, or do they feel like apologizing will just make things worse and that it might demolish their reputations? As a student, who has been bullied, I was never apologized to, the only times that the bully ever said sorry was when they were forced to do it by an adult. I don't think that bullies always feel sorry for the things that they do, I think that sometimes because of their conscience they may feel bad and want to make things better, but not normally. On that note, another thing that hurts the most when you hurt someone else's feelings is the admitting part. It's difficult to admit that you did something wrong and then to apologize for it, nobody wants to face the person they were rude to.
Lastly, I'm wondering if conscience and guilt are linked to why we do nice things for others. I already pointed out that guilt is the worst feeling you can get by doing something hurtful to another person, how it gets to you and sticks with you until you make things right. Do we do kind things, simple things even like donating a dollar to a cancer society, or saying happy birthday to somebody we don't normally talk to because we don't want to feel that emotion? Or do we do it just out of the kindness and goodness of our hearts? I believe that we do things for both reasons, on a family members birthday your not going to forget to make a card for them or get them a gift, those are the things you do without being said. Other things like taking out the garbage when your asked, you do because you don't want to get in trouble and you don't want to feel guilty. I think that our mind can be controlled by certain emotions.
Some of the worst emotions there is come from when you hurt somebody else, be respectful and kind and you will be able to avoid them. (^.^)
Once I got to high school I found that a number of students who used to be "mean" in my eyes stopped the bullying nonsense, they began to focus on their learning, homework, etc. and became decent people. I believe that maybe they felt certain emotions when they bullied others, one of the main feelings being guilt. I know I have felt guilt before, probably after eating one too many cookies... Guilt is probably the worst feeling that you can have, it eats you up, always feeling like you did something wrong. When you do something hurtful to another person you will feel guilt, you'll constantly be reminded that you did that wrong and normally you'll end up wanting to fix the problem you started because you can't stand the emotion. I'm going to say that certain emotions felt when you hurt somebody's feelings are one of the things that hurt the most about it.
When a person does a wrong, when they hurt another person do they want to apologize? Do they want it to go away, or do they feel like apologizing will just make things worse and that it might demolish their reputations? As a student, who has been bullied, I was never apologized to, the only times that the bully ever said sorry was when they were forced to do it by an adult. I don't think that bullies always feel sorry for the things that they do, I think that sometimes because of their conscience they may feel bad and want to make things better, but not normally. On that note, another thing that hurts the most when you hurt someone else's feelings is the admitting part. It's difficult to admit that you did something wrong and then to apologize for it, nobody wants to face the person they were rude to.
Lastly, I'm wondering if conscience and guilt are linked to why we do nice things for others. I already pointed out that guilt is the worst feeling you can get by doing something hurtful to another person, how it gets to you and sticks with you until you make things right. Do we do kind things, simple things even like donating a dollar to a cancer society, or saying happy birthday to somebody we don't normally talk to because we don't want to feel that emotion? Or do we do it just out of the kindness and goodness of our hearts? I believe that we do things for both reasons, on a family members birthday your not going to forget to make a card for them or get them a gift, those are the things you do without being said. Other things like taking out the garbage when your asked, you do because you don't want to get in trouble and you don't want to feel guilty. I think that our mind can be controlled by certain emotions.
Some of the worst emotions there is come from when you hurt somebody else, be respectful and kind and you will be able to avoid them. (^.^)